Saturday, July 05, 2008

It's All Perspective

I took a nice walk through Tent Rocks today. Good day for a hike.

It gave me time to let my mind wander (as it does often, even without the invitation!). I settled on this thought regarding relationships:
It's not so much my loss that I don't have a boyfriend at this time. It's their loss, too.
After leaving a friend's house, I think to myself, "He doesn't know what he's missing." When I leave the counter at the coffee shop, I think,"Too bad that fellow has missed out having a relationship with me." Driving down the street, I glance to see another fellow driving alone and I realize that his life is less for not having me in it.

Maybe it's selfish. Maybe it's self-defense. It certainly is ego. Yet there is truth in it, too.

Those guys are settling for less by not having me as their primary relationship. They would have a much more interesting and fulfilled, dedicated relationship had they chosen me.

I hope that's not all too much ego to cram into one post. But I'm happy knowing the loss isn't all mine. Those guys are having to settle for something mainstream and much too normal for my liking. I do hope that they like it and are satisfied. I imagine that they do and are.

(But I secretly tell myself that it is less than what I can offer.)

3 comments:

Eric said...

You never once had bad breath in any of the times I've been around you. That alone makes you marriage-worthy.

:)

But the bottom line is that you are a spiritual, kind, compassionate, aware, attractive, conscientious, intelligent, faithful, thoughtful guy. So of course those people are missing out.

Well, unless you are really bad at lovemaking. It's probably very hard to be in a relationship with someone so wonderful only to find that they are terrible lovers. But seeing how you excel at so many other things (and that those things usually help in the bedroom) I'm just going to assume that you are a Casanova as well. And in that case, there's a whole harem of men out there aching for their lack of you.

Dennis R. Plummer said...

Eric, you're hilarious! I still have to figure out a way to pay you as my publicist.

I'd been wondering where you were; glad to see your comment.

Eric said...

You can take me to tea if I ever have the misfortune of being in Albuquerque again.

Or better yet, you can show me what there is to like about Albuquerque, since so far you and a handful of other people I know there are it's only known redeeming qualities.

I mean, come on. How many hookah bars does one town really need?