Tuesday, August 14, 2007

On Sex

More from our guest blogger, Ayn Rand:

…sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value….

They think that your body creates a desire and makes a choice for you…. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the [person] he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selfishness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment—just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!—an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the [person] who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the [person] whose surrender permits him to experience—or to fake—a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of [person] he can find, the [person] he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer—because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.

He does not seek to gain his value, he seeks to express it…. But the man who is convinced of his own worthlessness will be drawn to a [person] he despises—because [that person] will reflect his own secret self, will release him from that objective reality in which he is a fraud, will give him a momentary illusion of his own value and a momentary escape from the moral code that damns him…. He will scream that his body has vicious desires of its own which his mind cannot conquer…. And then he will wonder why love brings him nothing but boredom, and sex—nothing but shame.

3 comments:

Eric said...

Does this explain the whole top/bottom dichotomy wherein gay couples ascribe to gender roles (which are themselves based on stereotypes)?

Or do bottoms just have more sensitive prostates?

:)

I have to wonder, though, if ANYTHING is every truly selfless. Even love has benefits. And so do altruism and sacrifice, even if it is just the dilution of guilty feelings. Can someone ever be truly selfless?

enersanctum said...

by the way, who does all these illustrations you keep using?

Dennis Plummer said...

Illustrations are by Sam Brown. A link to his site where you can purchase drawings is listed under "Other Links" in the column on the right.