In direct opposition to my long-held belief that, if I was not partnered by age 40, I would throw a big "I'm Single" celebration and never again pursue possible romantic interests, I asked out the manager at Border's Bookstore.
After weeks which strecthed into months of making eye contact and sensing reciprocal energy (funny how often I found myself taking A Man on outings to the bookstore!), we struck up a conversation. I asked if he'd like to go for coffee sometime. He told me his work hours with sufficient detail that I inferred that he was interested.
I returned to Border's the next morning to set a date and he informed me that he is playing soccer in nearly all of his free time for the rest of the summer! Another case of friendly guy genuinely open to getting to know a new friend who subsequently figures out that he is being approached for a "gay date" and freaks out.
Why are so many of the guys I'm attracted to straight? It's the same question (in reverse) that I hear some of my straight female friends asking: Why do all of the good guys turn out to be gay?
Anyway, I found a little quiz for everyone to take (the men at least...women, you'll have to help me find the appropriate equivalent). I propose that everyone then be required to wear their percentages on their sleeve so that the playing field is clearly identified.
Take the quiz.
By the way, I came in as 47% queer and 20% straight. I don't know what the other 33% of me is. The test didn't tell me.